Having been married for fifteen years, I could tell she wasn’t quite herself.

“Is anything wrong?” I enquired.

Silence.

“Honey, you haven’t turned the page of that book for forty-five minutes,”

Silence

“Okay, maybe it’s not something you want to talk about.”

I turned back to the book I was reading.

“I don’t know why you have to pretend you care!”

Uh oh! I put my book down.

“Honey?” I began politely, “I asked you if there was a problem—

“Yes, but did you wait for a response?”

Did I wait for a response?

“But I —

She stood up and walked out of the bedroom! I shrugged and continued reading my book.

Was I worried?

Maybe ten years ago I would have been worried!

Are we having serious problems with our marriage?  No. She’s a woman and I’m a man.  I can’t think or act like her no matter how hard I try and she can’t think or act like me no matter how hard she tries!

I remember an interview done with Ruth Graham where someone asked if she and Billy ever had any arguments.

“If we never argue that would mean one of us is dead.” That or something close was her reply.

You see, the fact that couples disagree or argue doesn’t necessarily mean that their marriage is threatened.

My wife is Sanguine and she has the tendency to wear her emotions on her sleeves.  Being a woman and having tons of emotions, you can imagine how many arguments or to be honest ‘fights’ we got into before I grew older and (thank God) wiser.

I am by no means saying that frequent disagreements, quarrels and shouting matches in a marriage are healthy.  These are of course symptoms of an unhealthy marriage and if care is not taken, divorce is often the destination of such marriages.

My point is that when you have two different species (Male and Female) from different backgrounds, different homes and different life experiences, living together in some twenty square feet of space, there are bound to be sparks!

However, it is not every spark that can lead to the divorce court and I’ll mention five of the harmless sparks in marriages here.  These are sparks that are normal and should not give couples, especially wives, any sleepless nights.

1)   REPEATED ARGUMENTS OVER THE SAME ISSUE: “Where are my keys?” my wife screams. “Has anyone seen my keys?”

I’m the only one in the house with her but I keep quiet. Maybe someone else in the house will respond!

“Honey, have you seen my car keys anywhere?” “Oh, were you talking to me?”

She gives me a curious look.

“If you would just take the trouble to keep your keys in one spot, by the door shelf where I keep mine, you wouldn’t be looking for them all the time.”

I reach under the sofa and throw the key in her direction.  Without exaggeration, I can safely say that we’ve had this conversation over 2,000 times!

Is our marriage in trouble because my wife won’t keep her keys where I keep mine?  Of course not! Because she’s a woman and I’m a man, there will always be areas where it will be downright impossible to change and we’ll in all likelihood continue to have arguments in those areas till we’re both old and Grey.

NB: Watch out for the concluding part next week!

‘Look, you’re carrying this Christian thing too far. It’s a harmless party. I tell you there is nothing to worry about, Lizzy could barely conceal her anger.

‘I don’t think you can call this party a harmless one’, Funke responded quietly

‘Well, what’s wrong with the party?’ Lizzy’s patience was wearing thin.

‘What’s wrong with the party? There’s a pornographic movie playing on the wall, people are doing all kinds of crazy stuff all over the place and you ask me what’s wrong with the party?’

Two girls came out of the hall a few meters away, rushed past an alarmed Funke and jumped straight into a swimming pool a few feet away, laughing hysterically.

In the glare of the flood lights in the premises, she could see that they had nothing but their birthday suits on!

A few minutes later, three boys followed suit! They were also naked!

Turning away from the swimmers who were raising hell in the pool, Funke pleaded with Lizzy. ‘Please take me home’.

Lizzy shook her head in disgust. ‘You better grow up. I’m having fun. Besides, there’s no way Richard’s gonna agree to leave the party right now. We’ve barely spent an hour!

With that, she staggered back into the hall and was soon enveloped by the noise and smoke.

Outside, Funke stood wondering what she had gotten herself into. She could feel the icy cold breeze penetrating her slightly clad skin. There were goose pimples all over her. She could hear the swimmers giggling foolishly inside the pool.

She was confused. It was 2:00am and it would be foolish to walk down the lonely streets trying to get a Cab at that hour. She would be mugged for sure! If only she hadn’t listened to Lizzy. They had been friends since childhood and were classmates at the University.

About two months back, Funke had become a committed Christian. Despite the fact that she had always been quite well behaved, it was obvious that something had happened to her. Her friends complained that she wasn’t that much fun to be with anymore. She no longer joined in their discussions about boys and she was no longer a Beyonce fan!

While she had summoned enough courage to tell some of her friends that she really wanted to be left alone, Lizzy was a different matter. Lizzy had always been wild and had a habit of going steady with two Boys at the same time!

Deep within her, Funke knew parting ways with Lizzy was the right thing to do but she just didn’t have the heart to do it. Here she was, at this party because Lizzy had begged for her company. Lizzy had pleaded that she didn’t want to be alone with Richard!

As she wondered if it wouldn’t be better to go back into the hall, Funke saw one of the guys from the University coming towards her. She didn’t know him by name but she had seen him around a few times.

‘How’re you doing?’ He slurred

‘Fine’ Funke replied and began to walk towards the hall. She had caught a whiff of Alcohol. The chap had taken quite a few shots it seemed. She didn’t want any of him!

The fellow was in her path in a second! ‘What’s the hurry”?

Funke tried to remain calm. ‘I just want to go back inside’

A silly smile appeared on his face. ‘Whatever for? Why don’t we join the guys in the pool? He began to unbutton his trousers!

Funke moved back hastily. ‘It’s too cold to swim”, she stammered. Without knowing why, fear was creeping into her!

She made a run for the hall but didn’t get very far. The fellow caught up with her after just a few steps and grabbed her with both arms. He was a well built fellow. In a moment, she found herself on the grass with a thud. Confused, she tried to fight him off. She couldn’t believe what was happening as he pinned her to the floor and began to fumble with her clothes!

‘What are you doing?’ Funke asked, terrified. She didn’t need an answer though. The floodlights were bright enough for her to see the look on his face.

Instinctively, she began to pray!

That seemed to get the fellow really upset as he let go of her and hit her on the face.

‘Shut up, shut up, you!’

Funke didn’t quite see what happened. The fellow was suddenly jerked off her and he fell flat on his back, a few feet away form her!

As it turned out, Richard, Lizzy’s date, had come out of the hall for a breather and had happened upon them. Recognizing Funke by her clothes, he had rushed in and flung the fellow off her!

To Funke’s surprise the fellow simply got up, put his trousers back on and walked back into the hall without saying a word!

‘What was that about?’ Richard asked with a look of surprise on his face

‘I can’t believe it!’, Funke began and then broke down in tears

‘It’s alright now.’ Richard consoled, holding her until she calmed down.

‘I was just on my own when he came out and jumped me!’ Funke explained

Richard shook his head in disbelief.

‘These guys are crazy. What are you doing here anyway? Thank God I came out when I did. But aren’t you a Christian? Why are you here?

Funke couldn’t conceal her embarrassment.

‘I made a terrible mistake’.

‘Eagles don’t fly with Vultures’. Richard remarked.’If you don’t stop hanging around places like this, you’ll get into real trouble soon. You’ll be better of, if you stick with your kind of people!’

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Eagles don’t fly with Vultures!

Suddenly, a shrill whistle shattered his progress at calming his nerves! Luke opened his eyes and saw Shaq, his friend and colleague at work poking at his ribs and pointing towards an attractive Lady who had just walked past where they stood!

“I’d give an arm and a leg to lay my hands on that hot babe!” Shaq gushed his features wearing a lecherous grin!

Luke was not unfamiliar with his friend’s preoccupation with the opposite sex. He turned away in disgust, leaned back against the wall and closed his eyes again.
“Sometimes, I wonder if you’re flesh and blood at all. Didn’t you see her?” Shaq retorted angered by Luke’s lack of interest.

Luke opened his eyes and smiled patiently at his friend.
“I’m flesh and blood all right. I’m just not stupid!”

Shaq leaned against the wall and looked at his friend closely. “What’s gotten into you these days man? You’re not the same old Luke. You don’t seem interested in babes anymore. Are you sick or something?”

Luke took a deep breath before speaking.

“Shaq, there’s something I’ve wanted to tell you. I don’t want to live like we used to anymore! I met this girl about a month ago and things just haven’t been the same again!”

Shaq caught his friend’s elbow and gave him a slight push.
“You’re kidding me man! I warned you about that Lola girl. Don’t tell me you’re in love with her. She’s weird, man! There’s something about her that I just can’t figure out!”

Luke smiled at his friend. “She’ a Christian Shaq. I’ve never met anyone like her. She’s just so different and she makes a lot of sense. I wanted to hit on her when we first met but she was so cool and she treated me with so much respect! She said she didn’t want to date me but she didn’t see why we couldn’t be friends.”

Shaq gave his friend a curious look “And—”
“Well, I talk with her now and again and we’re just friends but I see a lot of things different now. Take sex for example. She explained why sex before marriage is wrong and she made perfect sense!”

“I’m listening,” Shaq commented still puzzled.

“It’s like this,” Luke continued. “God made man and God is like man’s manufacturer. Every manufacturer has a manual for his products. You have to obey the instructions in the manual if you don’t want to damage the product. Lola says God’s manual for man is the Bible and the manual says not to have sex before marriage!”
Shaq stared at his friend, amazed.

“And this makes sense to you?”

“Well she showed me from the Bible. She also showed me that God has a purpose for my life and I’m so special that God sent his son Jesus to come to this world to pay the penalty for my sins. He died in my place!”

“I can’t believe this, Luke.” Shaq looked alarmed “What’s happening to you, man?”
Luke grabbed his friend and eye balled him. “There is nothing wrong with me Shaq, you’re the one something is wrong with! Are you really happy hitting on girls, partying and just cruising on? Does life have any meaning to you? Are we just here on earth to run around, spend our lives working to get rich, get married, raise kids, buy a house and then die off? Don’t you think there’s got to be more to life than that?”
Shaq was quiet as he thought over what Luke had just said.

“I guess you’re making sense,” he finally admitted.

“Of course I’m making sense. If the Manufacturer says I can get damaged by getting into premarital sex, I have enough sense to know he’s right. Look Shaq, I don’t know about you but I’m going to spend more of my time studying the Bible. I want to find out a lot more about what the manual says about me!”

The pretty lady walked back and past the two friends. This time however, Shaq didn’t even notice her! He was deep in thought, pondering over what he had just heard!
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SEX BY THE MANUAL?

Here is a look at ten top reasons why wives cheat.

1)         Inattentive husbands

One of the reasons why most women get married is for companionship. When a woman ends up with an inattentive husband, one who is too pre-occupied with his work, religion or some other thing, there is a tendency for her to drift towards a more attentive fellow and this could lead to emotional ties which……..

2)         Feelings of not being valued

When a woman begins to feel like she is just another piece of furniture in the home, there may be trouble ahead especially if she comes across another fellow who makes her feel like a prized Diamond!

3)         Feelings of not being appreciated

This is close to not feeling valued. In many homes, husbands hardly let their wives know that they appreciate the latter’s contribution to the home or to their success. We all like people saying ‘thank you’ to us, don’t we? When that wife meets someone who appreciates everything she does, well, ………..

4)         Feelings of being taken for granted

Many times, husbands assume that their wives don’t have a choice and will stay with them forever. They begin to do things that show that she can go to hell, for all they care! When that wife meets someone else who lets her know that her opinions matter, well,……….

5)         Absentee husbands

The difference between an inattentive husband and an absentee husband is that the latter is hardly ever at home! The office, the church or the Club are what the poor wife has to contend with! In comes a neighbour or colleague at work who is always there to fix her car or help with just about anything that husbands are supposed to do. Hello trouble!

6)         Child husbands

When a woman finds herself married to an immature husband who does not believe that it is his responsibility to provide for the home, she can be tempted when a man that is ready to give her the good things of life shows up. That’s just the way the cookie crumbles!

7)         Pre-marital sex

Pre-marital sex? Yep! Research has actually shown that folks who engage in pre-marital sex are more prone to committing adultery! God designed sex exclusively for married couples. When people engage in pre-marital sex, they sow a seed of immorality and they are often prone to repeating the pattern after marriage. After pre-marital sex, marital infidelity is really no big deal!

8)         Abusive husbands

An abused woman often remains in a marriage because she lacks self worth or has a low self esteem. Some even believe in a sadistic sort of way that they deserve the abuse! If the woman however comes into contact with a man that treats her with kindness and she realizes that she is worth something after all, she’s on her way out of the abusive marriage!

9)         Having a parent who committed adultery

This is probably new to you. When a parent commits adultery to the knowledge of their kids (and you’ll be surprised how much children really know) they set a pattern which their children often follow in future! Children are copy cats! It is immaterial whether the parent’s conduct is right or wrong. They tend to replicate that conduct in later life!

10)       Wrong associations

When a woman hangs around friends whose moral code is below hers, only one thing can happen. They will drag her down with them! They may even provide her with the man to have an affair with!

11)      Lack of sexual satisfaction in marriage

In today’s lust crazed world where nudity and sexual messages bombard our senses all day long, some women, like men, are now getting involved in extra-marital sex just for the fun of it!

When a woman is married to an ignorant fellow who refuses to get educated about performing better in the bedroom, depending on her belief system, she may decide to become adventurous!

I hope you’re now a bit wiser guys! You’re not the only one who can cheat!

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10 Reasons why wives cheat!

Sitting by me on the white sandy beach of the Atlantic Ocean was Ruth, one of my most favourite people in the world. We were both quiet as we stared ahead into the sea of nothingness before us.  The lights of some Boats flashed in the distance as stars danced over the waters of the Atlantic.

I hadn’t spoken with Ruth face to face in about a year. Then out of the blues she called about a week ago and asked if we could have lunch! I agreed but it turned out to be a late lunch because I couldn’t get away from my other engagements.

After Lunch, we decided to take a walk on the sandy Beach and fifteen minutes later my mood took a dive, mirroring  the night around us.

I’d known Ruth for some six years and from the day I met her, I was impressed! This was a young lady that had her head screwed right. As far as Love relationships were concerned, she set her standards really high and prayed about the kind of guy she wanted. I was sure she was going to hook up with a fantastic guy and settle down to a marriage made in heaven.

You can understand my devastation when Ruth announced that she had gotten married and was now separated within that one year out of circulation!

“ I can’t believe what you’ve just told me! You knew what you wanted in a man and you weren’t going to compromise! What happened?’

I could sense the tears in Ruth’s voice as she responded.

“I set my standards but after waiting for six years and the right guy didn’t show up, I thought maybe I had set my standards too high!”

It was getting chilly and I hung my jacket across her shoulders. I could feel her shivering all over.

“I knew Tolu wasn’t right for me from the first day we met but hey, I was tired of waiting for Mr. Right.  He seemed okay, but there was this nagging feeling that I couldn’t place. I had an uneasy feeling every time we spoke about marriage”

“So what happened? ” I asked, urging her to go on.

“I found out later that he wasn’t really that committed to Jesus. He had just started attending church when we met and I knew many of his friends in church. I guess I made a lot of assumptions. To be honest with you, now, I really doubt if he ever got converted!”

I still couldn’t believe it. ” Didn’t you go for pre-marital counseling?

Ruth stopped to look at me. ” We went for counseling but I guess none of us, including the Pastors could see through him! He had the right lingo, the right scriptures, the right Bible…… He was good!”

“I’m so sorry.” I consoled her ” How long did you court for?”

“Four months, but he was so nice while we were courting. Sometimes I wonder if he didn’t come to church just to entrap me!”

This was sounding like something from the movies. “But why didn’t you come to see  me or even call me?

“I avoided you because I knew you wouldn’t approve of him.  I knew the relationship would be over the minute you set eyes on him, I couldn’t talk to you about him!

I shook my head in unbelief

She continued. “At first, he said the church services were too long. Then he said I was becoming a fanatic. Finally, he stopped going to church and forbade me from going to church too. He threatened to deal with me if I as  much as sent a text message to anyone from church!”

“It was sheer hell, but I obeyed him. Yesterday morning, he woke up and started packing all my stuff. Before I knew it, I was out on the streets! Just like that!”

By now Ruth was weeping uncontrollably. But there was nothing I could say to really console her.  We both knew where she went wrong!  She should have waited for the guy she prayed for!  She shouldn’t have compromised when he hadn’t shown up on time!

You see, in every child of God, there is always a warning signal whenever we are about to make a terrible mistake. Sometimes, it’s the absence of peace. If you are about to take a step and you feel troubled, don’t go ahead. Most of the time, it is a warning that you could be making a terrible mistake!

Ruth had the warning signs but she couldn’t wait! Here she was now, back to square one!

Sometimes, when we pray, we have to wait till the answer comes, even if it takes forever!

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WAIT, EVEN IF IT TAKES FOREVER!

Let me show you an  example. God delivered the Jews from Egypt and sent off to Canaan, the Promised Land under the leadership of Moses. The Jews got to the boundary of Canaan and sent twelve spies to go spy out the land. Two of the spies gave a positive report about the land and urged the people to go in and take the land, afterall God had told them the land was theirs.

The other ten spies gave a negative report. They said there were giants in the land and they (the Israelites) were like Grasshoppers compared to the giants! They said it was impossible for them to take the land.

Do you know what happened? The Jews believed the ten spies with the negative report.  They were so taken by the negative report that they wept bitterly! As far as they were concerned, they were all dead meat. They said it would have been better to have died in Egypt or in the wilderness!

A few minutes later, God agreed with them. God informed them that he would do exactly as they had said.  Since they said they preferred to die in the wilderness, God said He would oblige them! All of them would die in the wilderness, from 20 years and above. These were those who were old enough to take responsibility for their words!

God doesn’t play with words. The children of Israel wandered in the wilderness for forty years! That was how long it took for all those concerned to die in the wilderness!

Also, in the book of proverbs, the Bible explains that we eat the fruit of our lips! That means, we live with the consequences of our words! Our words are seeds. When you speak, you are sowing seeds for good or for bad.

It’s interesting to note that research has shown that our words determine the reaction of our bodies!  It was discovered that when people say they are tired, the muscles of their body become heavy and their body  lines up with their words!

Whenever you sow a seed, the harvest will follow. It’s one of the most powerful laws in the universe. Our words do create our world.

Now, you need to pay close attention to what I will say from here.

I have discovered over the years that many people are in unhappy relationships not because of the common reasons given by people in unhappy relationships but primarilybecause of the negative words that continually come out of their lips!

Research has shown that people who continually use negative words on their partner regularly, don’t  see them improve! If you continually put your spouse down and accuse them of having affairs, when they are not, believe it or not, that’s what will eventually happen!

If you keep saying your marriage will not work and that you’ll end up getting a divorce, guess what’s going to happen!

The good thing about the law of sowing and reaping however, is that it works both ways.  Negative words =Negative consequences. Positive words=Positive consequences.

What this means is that you can also change your world if you don’t like what’s going on in it, by speaking positive words.

How can that be possible? you ask. Well, do you know what is in a seed that makes it germinate and pop up from the ground?  All we know is that God programmed it that way. That’s why it works that way!

You must never forget that your words are seeds and  they will bear fruit without asking for your permission!

This is why you  must not say negative things about your spouse or partner no matter how tempted you are. Even when things are negative, speak positive words.

Say what you’d love to see, not what you can see.

Yours words will change your home from a hell house to the garden of Eden, if you can put this to practice. I haven’t said it’s going to be easy but it’s what you’ve got to do. In fact you’ve got to make a habit of it!

Always remember that to have a marriage made in heaven, you’ve got to take advice from none other than the King of Heaven! He started this marriage business, you know!

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WHAT ARE YOU SAYING?

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Standing a few feet behind us was Rosanne, her daughter with tears streaming down her face. She had come to me, a few days back, to ask for my help. She was in her final year of College and she had gotten pregnant! No big deal, you might say but Rosanne was a committed Christian and committed Christians are not supposed to get pregnant out of wedlock.

Let me tell you what happened to Rosanne. She met a guy in College and she fell head over heels in love as many people do in College. The boy was also a committed Christian so everything was supposed to go on fine. Well, it didn’t. The fellow believed, like Rosanne, that it was wrong to have sex before marriage but he was a normal healthy boy and boys like that have sexual urges!

Now, when a normal boy has sexual urges and he has a girl friend, well, he’s going to want to express himself sexually. Rosanne didn’t feel that way but since she was in love, she was sympathetic. Since they were both against sex before marriage however, they reached a compromise. They would do everything else, heavy petting and getting naked but they drew the line. No sex, period!

As it often happens however, the line they drew was tested to the fullest every time they were alone together! Slowly but surely, the boundary shifted until one faithful day, the inevitable happened. The two of them were devastated! According to Rosanne they had never intended for it to happen! It had taken them a whole year!

Rosanne was more repentant. Her boyfriend soon wanted to fool around again but not Rosanne. She knew what was at stake. She had made a mistake and for her, it was once beaten, twice shy. She threatened to break off the relationship. Her boyfriend called her bluff and they broke up, just like that.

Rosanne couldn’t believe it. She had trusted him with everything. Why else would she have given herself to him! Could his declarations of love have been bare falsehoods?

She thanked her stars that he had shown his true colours before she married him. It was tough but she had to move on with her life.

That was before she discovered that she was pregnant.  It took her three weeks to come to me for help. I called her boyfriend and had a chat with him. Rosanne hadn’t told him she was pregnant. She was there when I told him. The boy denied having sex with Rosanne! I can’t describe the look on Rosanne’s face. I had known her for years and I knew she wasn’t lying. I had to hold her or she would have collapsed on the floor! As for the boy, he looked so unconcerned that I felt like giving him a slap across his lying lips!

But it wasn’t really his fault was it? Rosanne should have realized that she had more to loose. Sadly, many girls also only find out that they have more to loose when it’s too late!

Rosanne’s mother’s dilemma was; should Rosanne get an abortion, have the baby and give the baby up for adoption or bring up the child herself.

Rosanne would have to quit school and get a job for the last option to be possible. Her mother’s income simply couldn’t handle a baby’s financial needs.

What is Rosanne to do?

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PLEASE HELP ROSANNE!

He was a tall fellow, bespectacled and perhaps a college Professor. He had on black trousers, a pink shirt and a brown jacket. His tie was loose around his neck and his hair needed some attention.

Maybe he noticed that I was observing him, I don’t quite know but all of a sudden, he rose from his seat and made for my table! I had come to Town for a meeting of the Guild of Editors which was starting the next morning. I was at the Bar taking orange juice, minding my business and generally passing time.

‘I’m Sam, who are you?’ he began, sitting without my invitation.

‘Ed. How do you do?’

‘Married?’

I nodded. ‘Yeah.’

‘You have the look. I’m also married.’ he informed me.

‘Why did God make women?’ he continued.

I knew he didn’t want an answer from me so I didn’t speak.

‘The world would be such a nice place without women I tell you!’

I was still quiet.

‘My wife left me yesterday. Said I was half the man she married. Can you believe that? Silly woman!’

He took a gulp of his drink and shuddered. Whatever he was drinking, it wasn’t doing him any good. He closed his eyes and swallowed hard.

‘She was nothing when I married her! She didn’t even have a formal education. I worked my ass of and paid her way through college. Now she’s a hot shot Lawyer and I’m no good!’

He buried his head between his hands and sobbed deeply for a few seconds. ‘ I hate that.’ He buried his head again and sobbed some more. ‘I hate that.’

‘I know how to improve the quality of life in this country. We need to round up all the women and get them poisoned. We’ll start with the Queen! The Duke will be grateful. I’ll tell you that.’

He glared at me to see if I was in agreement. I chose not to take sides. I remained silent.

‘Maybe we should send them all to Mars. Away with the lot of them! I understand it’s steaming hot in Mars. They’ll love it there. Good for their hair. I think it’s spending too much time under the Drier that gets their thinking all mixed up! That’s why they nag and nag all day until a man can’t take it no more!

He looked around as if to make sure no one was watching us. ‘Do you know I once planned to get rid of my wife?’ He looked under the table, perhaps to be sure no one was hiding there.

‘I was going to call Wil Smith and tell him she was an alien in a human suit! He would have believed me if he heard her snoring at night! That’s when she communicates with her fellow aliens. Did you know that aliens don’t speak? They snore. Snoring is their language, you see!’

He took a long gulp and grimaced.

‘You’re not one of them, are you?’ He looked me over suspiciously. ‘Do you snore at night?’

I wanted to say Yes, but I restrained myself. I shook my head.

He didn’t seem interested in my response. He was staring outside at the dark car-park intently. I wondered if he had sighted a Space ship out there! Then, he rose carefully, his eyes still glued at the the car park and moved towards the huge windows.

It was my cue to leave! I got up careful not to attract his attention and left some money on the table for the waiter.

That, was a troubled man if ever there was one!

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LET’S SEND EM ALL TO MARS!!

Hi, The Couple have to be patient and prayerfully wait for God to turn the Girl’s father’s heart. With God, all things are possible. It is important not to get married in defiance of one’s father

7 most dangerous women!!!

There are of a lot of pretty young (and sometimes not so young) ladies out there if you’re looking to have a great relationship that will hopefully develop into settling down eventually. Er, but watch out lads, the dating scene is a jungle and you’ve got to keep your eyes peeled so you don’t become someone’s meat! Here’s our list of women to avoid!

Miss reckless

This dangerous lover drinks too much, probably does or would do drugs and gets into fights everywhere. When you date her, you are in for a roller coaster ride.  It’s like getting on an unruly horse. You never know where you will end up. She is loud and she loves to get into arguments and fights. She has been around and she really doesn’t care what you think once she gets going! Unfortunately, she  may look innocent and won’t show her true colours early enough during dates.

If you’re dating Miss Reckless, you’re heading for some wreckage sooner or later. Beware!

Miss jealous

She loves you but she can’s stand it when you as much as smile at another lady. Miss jealous will accuse you of hitting on any lady within twenty meters of you. God help you if you talk to another lady or hug another lady. She either flies into a rage or keeps it all inside until you are alone and then……..

She will apologize and tell you it’s only because she loves you sooo much. But wait until another lady appears on the horizon.

Miss clingy

She loves you and so she wants to see you as much as possible. Flattering, Yes? You are the best thing that has ever happened to her and she can’t get enough of you. Makes you feel good? Ah, but now she wants to know why she hasn’t heard from you in three hours. You left her place at 6pm and now its 9pm and you haven’t called! She wants to know where you are, who you are with and what you are doing every hour of the day when you are not with her!

That, my dear is miss clingy. She doesn’t exactly want to control you, but……………

And when she calls and you don’t take her call…….

Miss slut

She’s been around? Of course she’s been around. How else did she acquire all those tricks? She’s nice, very nice but sometimes her explanations for missing a date just don’t make sense.  She had to go out of town for a business meeting and she didn’t know until 9.00pm!? The battery of her phone went off and she didn’t know. How is that possible? You wonder. Her phone rang endlessly when you called!

A lot of guys seem to know her and some know her rather too well! The guy that just gave her a rather warm hug at the mall is her cousin, only you could have sworn he was Chinese and she is from Kenya! And, did she wink at him or it was just your imagination?

Simply put, she is a slut!

Miss control

She likes things done in a (her) particular way and because you are a nice guy (after all, you’ve just met) you want to humour her. Then she goes really cold when you don’t let her have her way. She now wants to tell you what to eat, what to wear, where to go and who to be with or who not to be with!

You complain and she says you don’t love her. She accuses you of having ego issues! It’s the male ego thing, she screams.

If you’re dating miss control, you might as well move into a Zoo and settle down in your cage! You’ll probably be happier there!

Miss despirado

Fall into her trap and you are gone! She is desperate and any man will do. For whatever reasons, she is now conscious that she is not getting younger and her chances of getting hitched are becoming slimmer by the day.

Watch out!

You are out for a good time but she is out for the long haul and she will do anything, yes, anything to get you hooked, including an unwanted child!

A typical miss desperado is older and more understanding. She will not crowd you or make unreasonable demands but she knows what she wants and nothing will stop her, absolutely nothing!

Miss gold digger

She’s all over you, or to be blunt, all over your wallet! When you go out on dates, you pay and that’s fine, you’re the man but how about going shopping with her and picking up the grocery bill?

Then she asks you to help her pay some bills and she forgets to give you the cash!? If you ever go out in her car, you are sure there is no gas and of course, you pay for the gas!

Soon, you’re paying her rent and paying bills to repair her car and fix her dog! How did it all start? Now you’re helping out with her sister’s college fees!

What’s going on? She’s got you by the wallet! That’s what’s going on. Good luck!

Finally guys, if you are with or you meet any of these ladies, you know what to do.

Run!!

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