Do you know that the Bible says you will have what you say? You may find this difficult to believe but the Bible actually shows that we create our world by the words we speak.
Let me show you an example. God delivered the Jews from Egypt and sent off to Canaan, the Promised Land under the leadership of Moses. The Jews got to the boundary of Canaan and sent twelve spies to go spy out the land. Two of the spies gave a positive report about the land and urged the people to go in and take the land, afterall God had told them the land was theirs.
The other ten spies gave a negative report. They said there were giants in the land and they (the Israelites) were like Grasshoppers compared to the giants! They said it was impossible for them to take the land.
Do you know what happened? The Jews believed the ten spies with the negative report. They were so taken by the negative report that they wept bitterly! As far as they were concerned, they were all dead meat. They said it would have been better to have died in Egypt or in the wilderness!
A few minutes later, God agreed with them. God informed them that he would do exactly as they had said. Since they said they preferred to die in the wilderness, God said He would oblige them! All of them would die in the wilderness, from 20 years and above. These were those who were old enough to take responsibility for their words!
God doesn’t play with words. The children of Israel wandered in the wilderness for forty years! That was how long it took for all those concerned to die in the wilderness!
Also, in the book of proverbs, the Bible explains that we eat the fruit of our lips! That means, we live with the consequences of our words! Our words are seeds. When you speak, you are sowing seeds for good or for bad.
It’s interesting to note that research has shown that our words determine the reaction of our bodies! It was discovered that when people say they are tired, the muscles of their body become heavy and their body lines up with their words!
Whenever you sow a seed, the harvest will follow. It’s one of the most powerful laws in the universe. Our words do create our world.
Now, you need to pay close attention to what I will say from here.
I have discovered over the years that many people are in unhappy relationships not because of the common reasons given by people in unhappy relationships but primarilybecause of the negative words that continually come out of their lips!
Research has shown that people who continually use negative words on their partner regularly, don’t see them improve! If you continually put your spouse down and accuse them of having affairs, when they are not, believe it or not, that’s what will eventually happen!
If you keep saying your marriage will not work and that you’ll end up getting a divorce, guess what’s going to happen!
The good thing about the law of sowing and reaping however, is that it works both ways. Negative words =Negative consequences. Positive words=Positive consequences.
What this means is that you can also change your world if you don’t like what’s going on in it, by speaking positive words.
How can that be possible? you ask. Well, do you know what is in a seed that makes it germinate and pop up from the ground? All we know is that God programmed it that way. That’s why it works that way!
You must never forget that your words are seeds and they will bear fruit without asking for your permission!
This is why you must not say negative things about your spouse or partner no matter how tempted you are. Even when things are negative, speak positive words.
Say what you’d love to see, not what you can see.
Yours words will change your home from a hell house to the garden of Eden, if you can put this to practice. I haven’t said it’s going to be easy but it’s what you’ve got to do. In fact you’ve got to make a habit of it!
Always remember that to have a marriage made in heaven, you’ve got to take advice from none other than the King of Heaven! He started this marriage business, you know!
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WHAT ARE YOU SAYING?
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I looked at the confused mother holding the door of my car, preventing me (not deliberately) from getting into the car. You had to pity her. Here was a widow who had single handedly raised her only daughter whose father had died when she was just three years old. That was some seventeen years back!
Standing a few feet behind us was Rosanne, her daughter with tears streaming down her face. She had come to me, a few days back, to ask for my help. She was in her final year of College and she had gotten pregnant! No big deal, you might say but Rosanne was a committed Christian and committed Christians are not supposed to get pregnant out of wedlock.
Let me tell you what happened to Rosanne. She met a guy in College and she fell head over heels in love as many people do in College. The boy was also a committed Christian so everything was supposed to go on fine. Well, it didn’t. The fellow believed, like Rosanne, that it was wrong to have sex before marriage but he was a normal healthy boy and boys like that have sexual urges!
Now, when a normal boy has sexual urges and he has a girl friend, well, he’s going to want to express himself sexually. Rosanne didn’t feel that way but since she was in love, she was sympathetic. Since they were both against sex before marriage however, they reached a compromise. They would do everything else, heavy petting and getting naked but they drew the line. No sex, period!
As it often happens however, the line they drew was tested to the fullest every time they were alone together! Slowly but surely, the boundary shifted until one faithful day, the inevitable happened. The two of them were devastated! According to Rosanne they had never intended for it to happen! It had taken them a whole year!
Rosanne was more repentant. Her boyfriend soon wanted to fool around again but not Rosanne. She knew what was at stake. She had made a mistake and for her, it was once beaten, twice shy. She threatened to break off the relationship. Her boyfriend called her bluff and they broke up, just like that.
Rosanne couldn’t believe it. She had trusted him with everything. Why else would she have given herself to him! Could his declarations of love have been bare falsehoods?
She thanked her stars that he had shown his true colours before she married him. It was tough but she had to move on with her life.
That was before she discovered that she was pregnant. It took her three weeks to come to me for help. I called her boyfriend and had a chat with him. Rosanne hadn’t told him she was pregnant. She was there when I told him. The boy denied having sex with Rosanne! I can’t describe the look on Rosanne’s face. I had known her for years and I knew she wasn’t lying. I had to hold her or she would have collapsed on the floor! As for the boy, he looked so unconcerned that I felt like giving him a slap across his lying lips!
But it wasn’t really his fault was it? Rosanne should have realized that she had more to loose. Sadly, many girls also only find out that they have more to loose when it’s too late!
Rosanne’s mother’s dilemma was; should Rosanne get an abortion, have the baby and give the baby up for adoption or bring up the child herself.
Rosanne would have to quit school and get a job for the last option to be possible. Her mother’s income simply couldn’t handle a baby’s financial needs.
What is Rosanne to do?
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PLEASE HELP ROSANNE!
I could see from my table that the sad looking fellow seated opposite me at the Hotel Bar was on his fifth drink! I had no intention of monitoring him but by the time the waiter approached him thrice in twenty minutes, I sort of took an interest.
He was a tall fellow, bespectacled and perhaps a college Professor. He had on black trousers, a pink shirt and a brown jacket. His tie was loose around his neck and his hair needed some attention.
Maybe he noticed that I was observing him, I don’t quite know but all of a sudden, he rose from his seat and made for my table! I had come to Town for a meeting of the Guild of Editors which was starting the next morning. I was at the Bar taking orange juice, minding my business and generally passing time.
‘I’m Sam, who are you?’ he began, sitting without my invitation.
‘Ed. How do you do?’
‘Married?’
I nodded. ‘Yeah.’
‘You have the look. I’m also married.’ he informed me.
‘Why did God make women?’ he continued.
I knew he didn’t want an answer from me so I didn’t speak.
‘The world would be such a nice place without women I tell you!’
I was still quiet.
‘My wife left me yesterday. Said I was half the man she married. Can you believe that? Silly woman!’
He took a gulp of his drink and shuddered. Whatever he was drinking, it wasn’t doing him any good. He closed his eyes and swallowed hard.
‘She was nothing when I married her! She didn’t even have a formal education. I worked my ass of and paid her way through college. Now she’s a hot shot Lawyer and I’m no good!’
He buried his head between his hands and sobbed deeply for a few seconds. ‘ I hate that.’ He buried his head again and sobbed some more. ‘I hate that.’
‘I know how to improve the quality of life in this country. We need to round up all the women and get them poisoned. We’ll start with the Queen! The Duke will be grateful. I’ll tell you that.’
He glared at me to see if I was in agreement. I chose not to take sides. I remained silent.
‘Maybe we should send them all to Mars. Away with the lot of them! I understand it’s steaming hot in Mars. They’ll love it there. Good for their hair. I think it’s spending too much time under the Drier that gets their thinking all mixed up! That’s why they nag and nag all day until a man can’t take it no more!
He looked around as if to make sure no one was watching us. ‘Do you know I once planned to get rid of my wife?’ He looked under the table, perhaps to be sure no one was hiding there.
‘I was going to call Wil Smith and tell him she was an alien in a human suit! He would have believed me if he heard her snoring at night! That’s when she communicates with her fellow aliens. Did you know that aliens don’t speak? They snore. Snoring is their language, you see!’
He took a long gulp and grimaced.
‘You’re not one of them, are you?’ He looked me over suspiciously. ‘Do you snore at night?’
I wanted to say Yes, but I restrained myself. I shook my head.
He didn’t seem interested in my response. He was staring outside at the dark car-park intently. I wondered if he had sighted a Space ship out there! Then, he rose carefully, his eyes still glued at the the car park and moved towards the huge windows.
It was my cue to leave! I got up careful not to attract his attention and left some money on the table for the waiter.
That, was a troubled man if ever there was one!
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LET’S SEND EM ALL TO MARS!!
All the Single guys, this is for you. But, why not? I guess single ladies can read along as well!
7 most dangerous women!!!
There are of a lot of pretty young (and sometimes not so young) ladies out there if you’re looking to have a great relationship that will hopefully develop into settling down eventually. Er, but watch out lads, the dating scene is a jungle and you’ve got to keep your eyes peeled so you don’t become someone’s meat! Here’s our list of women to avoid!
Miss reckless
This dangerous lover drinks too much, probably does or would do drugs and gets into fights everywhere. When you date her, you are in for a roller coaster ride. It’s like getting on an unruly horse. You never know where you will end up. She is loud and she loves to get into arguments and fights. She has been around and she really doesn’t care what you think once she gets going! Unfortunately, she may look innocent and won’t show her true colours early enough during dates.
If you’re dating Miss Reckless, you’re heading for some wreckage sooner or later. Beware!
Miss jealous
She loves you but she can’s stand it when you as much as smile at another lady. Miss jealous will accuse you of hitting on any lady within twenty meters of you. God help you if you talk to another lady or hug another lady. She either flies into a rage or keeps it all inside until you are alone and then……..
She will apologize and tell you it’s only because she loves you sooo much. But wait until another lady appears on the horizon.
Miss clingy
She loves you and so she wants to see you as much as possible. Flattering, Yes? You are the best thing that has ever happened to her and she can’t get enough of you. Makes you feel good? Ah, but now she wants to know why she hasn’t heard from you in three hours. You left her place at 6pm and now its 9pm and you haven’t called! She wants to know where you are, who you are with and what you are doing every hour of the day when you are not with her!
That, my dear is miss clingy. She doesn’t exactly want to control you, but……………
And when she calls and you don’t take her call…….
Miss slut
She’s been around? Of course she’s been around. How else did she acquire all those tricks? She’s nice, very nice but sometimes her explanations for missing a date just don’t make sense. She had to go out of town for a business meeting and she didn’t know until 9.00pm!? The battery of her phone went off and she didn’t know. How is that possible? You wonder. Her phone rang endlessly when you called!
A lot of guys seem to know her and some know her rather too well! The guy that just gave her a rather warm hug at the mall is her cousin, only you could have sworn he was Chinese and she is from Kenya! And, did she wink at him or it was just your imagination?
Simply put, she is a slut!
Miss control
She likes things done in a (her) particular way and because you are a nice guy (after all, you’ve just met) you want to humour her. Then she goes really cold when you don’t let her have her way. She now wants to tell you what to eat, what to wear, where to go and who to be with or who not to be with!
You complain and she says you don’t love her. She accuses you of having ego issues! It’s the male ego thing, she screams.
If you’re dating miss control, you might as well move into a Zoo and settle down in your cage! You’ll probably be happier there!
Miss despirado
Fall into her trap and you are gone! She is desperate and any man will do. For whatever reasons, she is now conscious that she is not getting younger and her chances of getting hitched are becoming slimmer by the day.
Watch out!
You are out for a good time but she is out for the long haul and she will do anything, yes, anything to get you hooked, including an unwanted child!
A typical miss desperado is older and more understanding. She will not crowd you or make unreasonable demands but she knows what she wants and nothing will stop her, absolutely nothing!
Miss gold digger
She’s all over you, or to be blunt, all over your wallet! When you go out on dates, you pay and that’s fine, you’re the man but how about going shopping with her and picking up the grocery bill?
Then she asks you to help her pay some bills and she forgets to give you the cash!? If you ever go out in her car, you are sure there is no gas and of course, you pay for the gas!
Soon, you’re paying her rent and paying bills to repair her car and fix her dog! How did it all start? Now you’re helping out with her sister’s college fees!
What’s going on? She’s got you by the wallet! That’s what’s going on. Good luck!
Finally guys, if you are with or you meet any of these ladies, you know what to do.
Run!!
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(You may want to read part 1 before reading this)
Research has shown that women are not as crazy about looks as men are, when it comes to dating and getting married! Surprised?
Have you noticed that rich men seem to get hooked up with beautiful ladies? It doesn’t matter that they look like a Gorilla’s cousin does it?
No, I am not saying that you have to be rich to get hooked up with beautiful ladies. You see, when a lady sees a man for the first time, unless she’s heard about him, all she can see is what appears to be a rich man! She sees a nice ride, a diamond watch and some skin shoes. Well, what if they are not really his? That’s irrelevant at that time. She’s attracted to what she can see!
What’s my point? Ladies are more interested in security than looks when marriage is on their mind. Why else do you think a five feet seven-inch lady would get hooked up to a four feet six inch guy? You’ve seen some couples like that haven’t you?
My point? A rich looking dude is attractive even though he may not be handsome, any day, anytime.
Okay so you are still counting pennies. All hope is not lost! Let me tell you two more ways of becoming attractive to ladies.
First, have you noticed that Ladies just love guys who make them laugh? That’s another way of making yourself attractive! You don’t know any good jokes? Go get a few. Get some Reader’s Digest if you have no clue as to where to get some good jokes. Stick around with some friends who tell good jokes, learn a few and practice telling them. You’ll soon have the ladies after you.
Second, learn the art of being a great conversationalist. Now let me tell you a secret. Most beautiful ladies are tired of men who are interested in nothing but their bodies. ‘You look like the next Miss Universe, may I know your name?’
Beautiful ladies can’t resist a man who treats them with some respect. When they see a man who appears genuinely interested in who they are, they tend to lower their guard.
All the credentials you need to be a great conversationalist is just to be genuinely interested in people and to listen more than you talk. Appear uninterested in dating a beautiful woman and you’ve bound to arouse her curiosity.
So, guys, it’s not all about being handsome. (If it were, I would be living alone on an Island now!)
Being rich, funny or being a great conversationalist will also get you hooked up. What happens thereafter? It’s up to you!
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